On April 2nd at 2:54 PM we welcomed our daughter Olivia Rose. She weighed in at 7 lbs 4 oz and was 21 1/4 inches long. I guess the saying is true that good things come to those who wait. Olivia was 15 days past her due date, and I was beginning to wonder if she would ever come.
On Friday night, Rob and I went to the mall to walk around and try to induce labor. I was having contractions that seemed regular, but were pretty weak and really no different from the other Braxton-Hicks contractions that I had been having for the past month. Later that night at home Rob and I watched a movie and I timed the contractions for about an hour. They were about a minute long and six minutes apart. I was pretty skeptical that I was in early labor since this was the same pattern I had the week before but nothing happened. My midwife had told me to call if it happened again, so I did call her around 11 PM Friday night to let her know. She advised me to try to get sleep if I could, but I had taken a nap that day and wasn't tired, so I stayed up until about 12:30 and finished the movie we were watching. I woke up around 3:20 AM and couldn't get back to sleep. Every time I began to drift off to sleep I would get a contraction that was just strong enough at the peak to wake me back up. So at about 3:45 AM Rob and I got up.
I am trying to remember what I was actually doing for those few hours, and I can't remember so I was probably surfing the internet :) By 5:30 AM my contractions were getting stronger so I decided it was probably time to call my doula, the midwives, and my parents to let everyone know that this was the real thing. At this point I was thinking it would be better to call earlier than later since I had no idea what to expect for labor length for my second baby compared to the first. As it turned out there was no rush at all and labor length was about the same as it had been with Will. Rob began setting up the birth tub upstairs in our bedroom and as one midwife set up all the supplies in our bedroom and bathroom the other started steeping herbs in the kitchen to make compresses and an herbal wash. I just tried to keep busy as well chatting between contractions and eating breakfast.
I was able to lay down on the couch for about 45 minutes to rest. I was never able to actually fall asleep, but I was able to relax as my doula Sarah massaged my head, hands, and feet, and it did slow down my contractions quite a bit. Will woke up around 9:30 AM, and while he was eating breakfast we called John and Cassie to come pick him up. They arrived around 10:30 AM and I felt like the contractions were getting a little stronger. Rob and the midwives all thought that it would be a good idea for Rob and me to go for a walk, so we walked outside for about twenty minutes. At first I did not want to go because it was scary to think of a contraction coming on while I was outside without a chair or couch to lean on and have someone press on my sacrum. It worked out fine though, and I was able to just lean on Rob for support.
My midwife checked me at this point, and I was a little disappointed to learn that I was only at 4cm. My contractions had been a little bit start and stop, some close together and then a longer break, and still not super long. We tried to contact the chiropractor I had been seeing to see if she could do a home visit. She wasn't able to come out, but she gave me some exercises to do to straighten and rotate my pelvis that were helpful. My doula also suggested using the breast pump for about 20 minutes to try to stimulate more regular contractions, but I have always hated pumping so that lasted about 1 minute before it hurt too much. So instead Rob and I just hung out together in our bedroom and I did the chest to floor position which worked amazingly well at easing the pain during a contraction.
Around 1:15 PM we decided that it was time for me to get into the tub. The positions I had been using weren't feeling as effective to me anymore. In general, it is advised that you wait until you are dilated to at least 5 cm before getting into the tub, otherwise it can slow labor. Since it had been at least two hours since I had been at 4 cm, we figured it was a good time to get in.
It felt wonderful when I got into the water. I had been kind of cold and the water was a nice warm 100 degrees. I was also finally able to relax my entire body instead of just most of it which felt really good. At about 2 PM the midwife gave me a homeopathic remedy to speed up labor and it worked pretty quickly. My contractions became much stronger and longer (at least it seemed to me). I must have been in transition around this time because I started to feel like it was getting harder and harder to cope through me contractions. I remember feeling like I just wanted to slip my head completely under the water, like that would make me feel better, but was afraid that I would choke on the water since I was having a difficult time controlling my breathing through contractions. Rob held my arms for me so that I didn't have to hold myself up it the tub and my doula kept reminding me to groan low rather than high since that made me almost instantly tense up and made everything hurt more.
At one point I put my ears under the water so that I could just block everything out and be as close to totally submerged as possible. I remember looking out around the tub and feeling like I was having all this intense turmoil, but all these people were just calmly waiting. It was a weird feeling. Sarah told me once to change positions from floating on my back to a lunge position, and wow did I switch back as quickly as possible. I started to get really warm and could tell that my face was probably all flushed. They put cool cloths on my face and it felt like the most wonderful thing ever. I started asking "How much longer? I can't keep doing this!" Rob decided to get into the tub with me to support me so I could lean back without falling into the water. So I sat on his lap and leaned back against his chest. It was a much more comfortable position.
At this point the midwives decided to check me, and they told me that the baby's head was only about an inch from crowning. I couldn't believe it. I didn't even realize that I was completely dilated already. That was just enough encouragement for me to keep going. So I began to start pushing with the next contraction, which brought the baby to crowning, then I pushed for her head and a third time for her body. The original plan had been to take the pushing phase very slowly to prevent me from tearing like I did with Will, but when they checked the baby's heart rate after the first push it was really low, so I had to push her out really quickly.
After Olivia was born I quickly brought her up to my chest, and Rob and I had her there still sitting in the pool until her cord stopped pulsating. Rob cut the cord, and then I got out of the pool. I wasn't able to nurse Olivia until the cord was cut because it was kind of short, so it was nice to get into bed and nurse her. I was sure that I probably tore since I had to push so hard at the end, but I was very relieved to learn that I only had one small tear that didn't even need stitches.
My mom arrived at the house about twenty minutes after Olivia was born, and the midwives stayed for several hours after the birth. Rob and the midwives were busy cleaning up while I held Olivia. Overall, I felt like the homebirth was a great experience. It was so nice to not have to leave home to go the hospital and to have so many knowledgeable and supportive people around me during the birth. The water birth aspect of the birth was also great. The water helped me not only relax but also cope better with the contractions during transition and the warmth was very soothing. I am so glad that we chose to do homebirth; it was a much more intimate experience than hospital birth.
Olivia has been a great baby so far and we are already so in love with her. We can’t wait to watch her grow!